American Mirror

Give The Lady What She Wants

In my younger years most of my dear trusted friends were women. Not because they were young, beautiful, or willingly sexual; some were, some were not. It was because for the most part, their sensibilities and intelligence were more valuable that anything I got from men. It was also because I realized that if I wanted to learn anything about women, my best source was women not men. More often than not, men are simply the worse source of information about what women desire and need. Once I told a male friend of mine the story a young wife, a... Read more →

Men Have No God Given Authority To Dominate Women.

It is important that mothers and fathers teach your sons and daughters that No God gave men authority to dominate women. Creation's design for rational sentient pairs intended the human sexual dyad to be a symbiotic bond. Created out of the same elements, men and women have the same biological systems except for differences in the emotional, physical, and reproductive designs necessary for the propagation of the human species. You can subscribe to the biblical assertion in the book of Genesis that "God took a rib from Adam, the first man, to create Eve, the first woman"; or you can... Read more →

What Did My Relationships With Other Women Teach My Daughter?

When my daughter, the only child of divorced parents, was a teen, she told me, "I want a man who will treat me like you treat me. But not like you treat other women." Perhaps I had a momentary mental blackout when she said it, but in my memory the comment came out of nowhere. In my mind, nothing in our conversation should have elicited that comment. Perhaps it was part of a conversation she carried on in her head. Perhaps it was just something she felt she needed to tell me. In my mind, it made me sit up... Read more →

What Can A Mother Teach Her Daughters About Men?

In a previous post I wrote about 21 Things Your Daughter Should Know About Men Before She Starts Dating. Predictably, some men objected to the article. They deemed it unfairly stereotypical and that it was not representative of all men. Of course it wasn't; nor did it pretend to be. That claim was never made for one very good reason, "all" never correctly applies to any group. Nevertheless, that salient fact does not negate the very real fact that there are many pitfalls in male-female relationship that young girls and their mothers encounter that can wreck havoc on their physical... Read more →

Women And The Bad Boy Syndrome: Taught, Learned, Or Real Addiction?

I sometimes wonder where some women, who otherwise seem intelligence, get the notion that it is cool, smart, sexy, or heroic to share their bed with a "bad boy". Where did they learn that loving a bad boy was a good thing for women to do. More importantly, having a choice, how does any woman arrive at the conclusion that a love relationship with a bad boy has any kind of up side to it. One wonders if this a lesson some mothers teach their daughters. One would guess that it is not the kind of lesson a mother who... Read more →

There Are Benefits In Platonic Love Relationships

Most people enjoy a superior more satisfying life when they share a healthy platonic love relationship with a member of the opposite sex. Men and women who share healthy platonic love relationships receive a nurturing source of symbiotic energy that is beneficial to both male and females. Unfortunately, maintaining a platonic love relationship with a member of the opposite sex is often seen as a high risk, and sometimes, overwhelming task for many people. Adults young and old commonly profess an unwillilngness or an inability to believe that a nurturing friendship, especially between two sexually attractive people, will not inevitably... Read more →

Noise And Silence Damage Beauty And Intimate Relationships.

There is a reason why both men and women feel more attractive when they are in love. Beauty thrives in a nurturing intimate relationship. Noise and silence, on the other hand, destroy emotional health, love relationships, and-as a consequence-destroys physical beauty. The damage is obvious and predictable. Couples caught up in chronic intimate romantic conflict have a habit of y modifying or completely eliminating verbal communications as punishment for what they feel are personal affronts and transgressions. It happens even when the perceived transgression is slight. Verbal punishment takes many forms with varying degrees of damage to emotional health and... Read more →

Indictment And Confessions Of A Man Who Hates And Loves Women?

"Why do you hate women?" Serenely snuggled against my chest, she said it quietly, but I heard a scream. Of all the things she might have said or could have said, why this? This, only minutes after she had blessed the space around us with groans and moans that seemed to come from the fauna of her soul followed by tears and laughter that seemed to come from the flora that was her personality. Whether any of it was real or just for my benefit, I never posited a guess. I ignored the scream and sought refuge in the quiet... Read more →

Protecting The Male Ego Isn't Worth The Price Of A Daughter's Emotional Health And Safety.

We live in a world dominated by men, often at the expense of women. So we expect that some people would have negative reactions to lessons that inspires a young girl's self confidence and promote the social, psychological, emotional, and physical power of women. Why? Because they think these kind of ideas bash all men as abusive or evil and don't identify the behavior of bad women. A daughter's ego is worth protecting Therefore it comes as no surprise that some people have objections to a list of items cited in a post titled: 21 Things Your Daughter Should Know... Read more →

Sex Between Unsympathetic Partners Afflicts Emotional And Sexual Health.

Sexual Intercourse between partners who are not in sympathy with each other afflicts the emotional and sexual health of both partners. Lovers who share sympathy have mutual feelings of trust, loyalty, devotion, and an allegiance that debases neither. The presence of sympathy in a sexual relationship means that lovers do not have to deal with disruptive emotional and psychological distractions. In the absence of emotional and psychological distractions in a sexual love relationship means that the couple waste neither sexual energy nor emotional energy. Men and women in unsympathetic relationships, even when their emotions and psychological distractions are made numb... Read more →

21 Things Your Daughter Should Know About Men Before She Starts Dating

Most parents want to encourage and empower their daughters with the right and the ability to grow up to be happy, confident, and self-reliant. What parents teach their daughters about themselves, about men, and about their relationship with men will help determine how well they accomplish that. While there are many more things as parents we need to tell our young daughters, these 21 things are important as they build their own definition of self and their relationships with men. What lessons will your daughter learn? Basic Foundation Red Flags. 1. An overpowering need to feel superior to women is... Read more →

Is The God of The Religious Right Good for Humanity?

Much of human behavior based on religious dogma and religious practices makes no humanly logical sense. And anyone who would argue with that is either a liar or a fool. At best, giving the masses the benefit of the doubt, most human behavior based on religion is the result of appeals to the passions of emotional thinkers whose sensibility has been co-opted by religious and political power-brokers who were and are wiling to take advantage of emotional thinkers. Human behavior begs the question: will God forgive lies, stupidity, murder and other massive bad behavior even when it is done in... Read more →

The Vagina Has No Power if Men Control It

We are witness to many observations, speculations, and opinions about the powerful, captivating, and sometimes mesmerizing influence the vagina has over men. Whatever may be the cause or the apparent truth of the many observations, the fact is that millions of men enthusiastically and unapologetically pay generous sums of money in what men variously call, among other names, titty bars, strip clubs, and men's club just to look at it. But even if the vagina does have a hypnotic attraction for men, the vagina has no power over men if men control it. The Mutant Lesser Power, or whatever name... Read more →